[SKL]

OK, my daughters have been home for 15 months. They are now age 2 and 2.25 and are doing great, in general. I just want to bounce some things off you folks in regard to my older DD (A).

"A" took about 2.5 months to "like" me after coming home, and after that, she didn't want anything to do with other regular caregivers. She is fine with friends and relatives, but gets difficult when someone other than me starts taking on a caregiver role for any extended period of time. This includes her nanny and two live-in "aunties" (not actually relatives). She slowly adjusted to the nanny - after a year she basically tolerates her and sometimes has fun with her - but every time there is a gap where the nanny is off or whatever, she again gets difficult when it's time to reconnect. And when I say difficult, I mean being uncooperative, whiney, and mostly nonverbal, and occasionally working herself up into a screamfest. If I'm around at these times, she begs me to hold her indefinitely.

OK, this kid is really a remarkably good kid by most measures. Most of the time she's even-keeled, very obedient and helpful, cute and funny, with healthy activity, sleeping, and eating habits. She does great with her sister and has no problems when we go out. She has some quirks and sensitivities to stimuli, but nothing extreme, and these seem to be fading.

So, have I screwed up attachment? Is it within normal ranges for a 2.3yo to be so clingy to the mom and disdainful of surrogates? Or is my kid just spoiled rotten? Has anyone here btdt and figured out what (if anything) to do about this?