[ChromaKelly]

Everything I read tells me how beneficial it is to transracial adoptees to have a sibling of the same race in the family. I believe it, and I know it would be best. But, I honestly don't know if we can afford to adopt again. If another child landed on our doorstep, that would be great. But it just doesn't work like that! Caleb's adoption ended up way over budget and we're in the hole. Plus, we're maxed out on bedrooms at the moment. We're planning on moving, but can only do it if the housing market picks up.
I would really, really love to adopt again. I would love an older baby/young toddler next time. I keep perusing the "situations", and I almost hope to get call from one of the places we worked with, but it's all so unrealistic, at least any time soon.

OK, that kind of leads me to another question - is the benefit of having a same-race sibling only when they are close in age, or would like 3-4 years apart be fine too?

I have a cousin who was adopted from Korea, and she's the only transracial adoptee in the family. We're not close, but she doesn't seem to have issues with it. I would love to ask her, but how do you ask that?