[blubutterflies03]

So, we are headed to TPR for Pinkdancer and Spiderman next month. The birthmom has asked the worker to ask all the foster parents if they would maintain some type of contact after TPR. All have said yes. That does not mean people will really do it. We are trying to figure out a safe and healthy way to maintain an open relationship without ruining the rest of their young life. The therapist is telling us if we let the parents see the kids, we will destroy the work he is doing. We don't really know the parents as they have spent most of the time incarcerated. I am thinking at first of getting a p.o. box and maybe doing letters and pictures at first. But will the kids getting letters disturb them??? Or do I just send the mom the stuff and leave the kids out of it? Gosh, we have an open relationship with birthmom to my privately adopted son. He has seen his birthmom 3 times in almost 3 years. I send her pics, she is on my myspace so she can access my pics anytime. I write her updates. She pretty much is distant most of the time, but she is only 19. my other birthmom from the daughter I adopted thru fostering died shortly after we adopted her. We did some vistis at the mall which I stayed with them while they visited. The sad thing is my daughter is turning out to be just like her mother. Any good ideas about what is best to do with children who know and remember their parents??