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Thanks for all the great responses. And before I forget, the picture you posted is beautiful, Dutchgirl. I tend to be one of those people that never wants to make anyone too uncomfortable, which is just impossible in an OA (ours anyway). I think I have fears that, if I push my DH's family too much on OA, they may go back to rejecting our son. These fears probably aren't realistic, but, before we adopted, we truly had just accepted that they would not be part of our lives because they were so against the adoption and then, one day shortly after we brought our son home, it just turned completely around and they have been so in love with him. I just don't want to do anything to hurt his relationship with them, but I know that hiding his birth family's pictures and, in any way, making him feel ashamed of talking about his birthfamily with his extended family, would absolutely be more detrimental to him of course. It just gets so frustrating because I feel like, as his parents, if we, of all people, aren't threatened by and fully want an open adoption, what do our extended family have to be threatened by? I know it's just a lack of education and understanding, but it still just gets so frustrating.
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