[Indy]

This post hits home, dead center. I have two sons who will never live independently. I know this sounds sad, but the only plan in place is a group home. My family is unwilling to provide long term support, as the two have far reaching disabilities. I was told from the beginning (boy was I green then!) that they would lead fully independent lives! And I believed it! Nothing could be further from the truth. M2 can't even live here without my constant supervision. He is 19 and a junior in high school. Even when he does graduate, he won't be able to work.

L reads on a first grade level. They should have kept him in school for another year or two...but I was out voted by the IEP committee. What do I know? I am just a "stupid" parent. L has been out of work for 7 months. He is not very employable, as he got fired from a grocery store for cussing out a supervisor. Ever since, he sabotages every interview and job chance.

I did not plan on M2 and L living with me for the rest of my life. I actually am getting to the point of being bitter. I was lied to and deceived by workers. Now, teachers and administrators treat me like I am a bad parent because I call things as I see them. The system stinks supporting parents who parent children with disabilities. When a child reaches 18, they go on a list for support. It can take 5-7 years to get to the top. I have heard of some who wait 10 years. SSI can help, but it is not enough to get them through.

I am sorry for sounding so negative, but I am typing this from my room as M2 is sitting on a couch in my room. He needs constant supervision, as he cannot keep himself out of trouble. I live this every day. Sadly, if someone had told me that this is the way things would turn out with M2, I would not make the same decision. I know, bad dad.