Bottom line is-what do you want? A therapist once asked me if I wanted to be right or if I wanted a relationship with my son on terms my son understood.
My kids that left home early all regret it as life is hard. I do have a relationship with them but I do know that they do manipulate and lie(having 4 the same age makes that quite interesting as they don't keep their lies straight).
I do invite them to dinner away from the house about once a month. I do take their phone calls. If they come here, I hide my purse. I rarely initiate contact except email to see if they are alive.
When they make a step forward, I do too and some of them are growing up and figuring things out. Some aren't.
T I would like to disown at this point and not sure how I'll feel in the future with that one.
When you are ready, you can talk to him because he IS your son, but that doesn't mean you put your heart back into the picture. He may be at a point where he is ready to hear your wisdom and advice.
Some days, parenting sucks.
