I was originally going to post this with Skirbo's thread, but I didn't want to look like a hijacker. M's story reminds me a lot of her B's situation. From what I hear, M has also been getting a pretty good dose of "The Real World".
It started Christmas Day when my mom was driving home from my sister's. She was coming down the highway and saw m walking down the road. She stopped and offered him a ride. Turns out, he was walking to his aunt's house to spend Christmas with her. (Yes, the same aunt who tried to send him to a group home so she wouldn't have to put up with him.) My mom offered to drive him to the aunt's, as it wasn't out of her way.
Well, he gave my mom a real sob story. Apparently, he was walking because he had a wreck and his car is in the shop while he saves money for the repairs. (This is a new car he bought less than three months ago.) His car insurance is now $400 per month!!.
She asked him if he was still living with "Lolita", his jailbait girlfriend. He told her, "No, I was only there one week." Well, that's a lie. He still claims it as his address and her Myspace brags about them living together. he told her he was living at an apartment complex across town. WRONG!!!
C and his girlfriend live in that complex and its small enough that C would have known if M were living there.
Then, the kicker: he asks my mom "Do you know why my Dad won't talk to me?" WHAT???? She told him "Well, I think you calling the police to his house was not a good move." he didn't say anything to that.
fast forward to New Year's night. Jean had come by and C was spending the night. R went to bed at his regular time, and the three of us were sitting in the living room talking, when the phone rings at 1am. (Yes, we are all night owls here.) From the caller ID, Icould see it was coming from Lolita's house, so we opted not to answer it. (Had i been a hospital or the police, we would have gotten it.) Then, the phone rings again at 1:15, also from Lolita's. C offered to answer and give M his opinion. Well, Jean grabbed it first and answered "Hello". There was a long pause and she said "Hello" again. Apparently, it was M and he asked "Uh, hi, is Mike there?" She answered "No, he's not available. Can I give him a message?" M hung up. She said his words were slurring, like he'd been drinking. We've heard nothing else from him, though he may still be in shock that a woman answered my phone in the middle of the night.
Now, the women in my life are divided. My mom says he needs to be given another chance and he seems to really want to make amends. (I didn't have the heart to tell her that almost everything he told her was absolute crap!) Jean, on the other hand, is out for his head. Her opinion is that he just used me to get out of foster care and, now that things have gotten really rough for him, wants to try to slither back into my good graces. She even thinks I should have the adoption dissolved to prevent him from having any claim to my assets. (This is not really necessary, as my will at this time expressly disinherits him.)
I really don't want anything to do with him at all right now. The way he left here was hurtful enough, then to call the police to my home based on a lie was the last straw. The fact that he continues to lie to cover himself shows me that nothing has changed. At least C's screw-ups were not malicious towards me. As Jean puts it, "C just doesn't think about the collateral damage when he does something stupid."