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Originally Posted by karla-k
We are now adopting internationally and very close to bringing our son home. We also have 3 bio kids. I still have that newborn baby urge though and think that adopting domestically after this is appealing.
What are our chances of being selected by a birthmother? We are in our late 30s now, DH is in his early 40s by the time we applied again. We will have 3 bio kids and an adopted son. I stay at home with the kids.
What do most birthmothers look for? Childless couples? Younger people?
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There's no telling. I was 34 and DH was 48 when we applied and it was a 20 month process the first time. DD came to us three months before DH turned 50. Her first mom wanted an older couple with no children... she was older herself. With DS, his first mom wanted her child to for sure have a sibling so that was a factor in her picking us. I have heard that the wait is longer at times when there are already many kids in the family although I am certain there are women considering adoption who would be interested in the possibility of a larger family for their child. To me, the only factors I believe seem to affect wait for sure is how open you might be to race and special needs. Other than that, there is no set of guidelines for what an expecting parent considering placement might want.