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Waiting Time
Thank you, everyone for your messages.
Wannabeamomma, you mentioned the wait for concurrent planning is shorter. Honestly, when we went through training, our agency positioned it like concurrent planning IS the only option. Levels of risk were explained and it sounded like most of us would take a child or children in when it looked like the birth parents were being unsuccessful in reunification...
I remember sitting in training, hearing about examples of cases with the kids being reunited with the birth family. We had the deer-in-the-headlights look and my DH started getting scared that we'd all fall in love and the child would be taken away. We're especially worried about the impact on our DS. I am sure that our agency just wanted to prepare us for worst case scenario and to be realistic.
It sounds like every case is different, and as one of you mentioned, it's really a leap of faith. If I understood that a placement with a child who is legally free for adoption is a viable choice, then I want to jump on it. But I didn't get that message from my agency.
I am going nutso waiting to hear from our adoptions worker...haven't met yet, so maybe this will all be clearer after we talk.
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