[CaddoRose]

Simply put: you can not do anything to get them to "get it". They choose to be the way they are. They choose to hide their heads in the sand. Besides, isn't it easier for them to just blame you instead of looking at themselves?

I know you want the girls to have some relationship with the family, but if there is a constant threat of arguments and upheaval, then what is the purpose of maintaining contact? It isn't healthy for them or you.

I don't remember what caused the girls to come into care, but whatever it was, your sister is the one who lost them and you saved them. She screwed up, not you. No one can change that by trying to blame you, or twist the truth in any way.


Maybe you could write down the steps that got you and the girls here. What happened to the girls. What their Mom did to lose them, etc. If you lay out the steps, keep it all about the health and well being of the girls and give that to your Mom. She can either see it in writing or ignore it. If she chooses to ignore that this is all about protecting the girls, then there isn't anything else you can do.

Stand your ground. Protect your girls. Protect yourself.