You just summed up every reason why I refuse to travel anywhere on Christmas. Dh and I have a rule that Santa only comes to our kids' home
I will travel the day before or after but we always wake up on Christmas at home. Its a real shame that you ended up in such a non-kid friendly place. But I have to say, that I am so proud of your mom for staying with HER FAMILY. Sounds like you made the best of a bad situation. I probably wouldn't say anything to anyone except for your mom. And really, I would thank her. It doesn't sound like anyone was really being mean spirited, just as they get older (and I have this in my family too) their lives are not kid-centered anymore. They just don't get it, so no point in having a conversation about it. Next year, invite your mom to your home. Good for you for sticking it out and I bet your daughter will have good memories of a Christmas that you barely survived!