[guatmama2b]

Hi all! DH and I have one son whom we adopted through international adoption a little over a year ago. We are at a place now where we are considering a second adoption and feel like we are being drawn towards a special needs adoption (don't know yet if that will mean international or domestic,) but I have a question for all of you!

To me this feels like a hard question to ask, so I hope you understand that my intentions are good. I know that the term "special needs" covers a vast array of "needs," but for the purpose of this question I am only talking about the most severe (one in which the child is unable to care for themselves without assistance.) DH and I feel that we are equipped emotionally, physically, and financially to adopt a special needs child, but our question is... how do you plan for the future of your child if / when you, as the parents and caregivers are gone? When we are thinking about this adoption, we feel absolutely willing and capable of making this lifelong commitment, but what happens when we are not here to care for our child throughout their adulthood?

Does this make sense? What happens to our children once they become adults and we (the parents) pass away? Oh... this sounds so morbid! But it is a real question. I hope that there is some easy answer that you will be able to provide!