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My daughter came home at age 6 and also has memories of her first family. I did a presentation in Nov 2007 in her 2nd grade classroom. I started out by asking the kids if they knew what being adopted meant. I read the book "Forever Fingerprints" to the class. After the reading the kids were allowed to ask my daughter and I questions. I was amazed at the questions they asked and my daughter answered most of them herself. After that we made fingerprint drawings that the kids got to take home.
I have found that teaching adults acceptable adoptive language starts with teaching the kids. My daughters have brought up the "real" mommy issue a few times and I always respond by asking them if I am fake then go on to explain that they have 2 mommies. They finally understand.