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Originally Posted by Birthmom12_10_2008
thank you. i'm sure he would want to know that i moved forward with my life, but i would think at one point it could cause problems with him. like you said, he might think we did it just to better ourself, when my main reason was to give HIM a better life, I never once thought about what I would be able to do until after I had my mind made up.
the only problem with bringing those things up in therapy is that when I do she tells me that I have to stop thinking those things, but yet doesn't give me tools to help me stop. I can't just say to myself stop.
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Sweetie,
as an adoptee I would never have wanted my mother to be stuck in her grief as to not better herself. I would be proud of a bmom that did. I would feel guilty to think that she was so hurt because of me(my birth) she was unable to help herself.
I totally understand that my placement was in my best interst.