[Birthmom12_10_2008]

thank you. i'm sure he would want to know that i moved forward with my life, but i would think at one point it could cause problems with him. like you said, he might think we did it just to better ourself, when my main reason was to give HIM a better life, I never once thought about what I would be able to do until after I had my mind made up.

the only problem with bringing those things up in therapy is that when I do she tells me that I have to stop thinking those things, but yet doesn't give me tools to help me stop. I can't just say to myself stop.