[Angela72]

My husband and I completed all of the requirements to become Foster parents back in September.
We have a 6 year old daughter and really want to add to our family..so it is our goal to adopt a child from Foster care.
We went 2 1/2 months before we ever got a call, we're told it's because of our criteria. Which I believe to be true. We can only take in 1 child due to space. A caucasion girl ages birth to 10 yrs. old is our preference.
So, finally on Dec.1st we got a call about sisters. I reminded them that we had limited space, the girls would have to share a bedroom w/our daughter. DCS said that was fine. My husband and I thought we could handle it and we were so excited about our 1st placement.
I won't go into too many details, but the minute these poors kids walked in my door, our world was turned upside down. The destruction of things, walls, our car,our cat, etc..and the horrible behavior was something that all the PATH classes in the world can not prepare you for.
We didn't expect perfect kids, we know these children have been through so much and it is expected that they have behavior issues..but they took it to a new level. I have never seen anything like this in my life!!! I have kept 4 and 5 kids @ one time (family,friends of my daughters, etc.), but this was more than we could handle.
Our daughter broke down twice and asked me to "send them away" and I had a couple of "private breakdowns" myself.
We wanted this to work. We prayed about it. We talked about it. But we couldn't handle these kids.
So, we requested a disruption. Needless to say this was not well received. I had to go in front of the kids SW and 2 other women from DCS and "plead my case" so to speak. Prior to that I had to talk to my SW boss on the phone and give him the same info. He made me feel like a horrible person, which I am not.
I know a disruption is not a good thing and it's hard on the kids..but I'm a person too and I have my family to think of as well. We went into this with the best of intentions, but we can only handle what we can handle.
After the girls left, my husband said no more..we're done. I didn't feel the same. I wasn't ready to throw in the towel after one bad experience. After some time to think on his own, my husband changed his mind and wants to continue.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone has a similar experience. Also, I was wondering if anyone knows if you're "blacklisted" after a disruption. It's been 5 weeks and not one call. I'm curious if we should go another route. I know of a foster couple in my city who had 2 disruptions and have since adopted 2 foster kids, so that gives me hope that we will get another chance..but I'd love any insight you guys could offer.
I feel like we're all alone in this and that we're considered "bad" because of the disruption.
Sorry to go on so long..hadn't vented like this to anyone..lol
Thanks for any help you can offer.