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I'd talk with the SW.
Personally, if she set up an appt. with the doctor with the SW'ers permission for the earrings, then maybe... but since you will have to be the one to care for the child's ears I think you should get to have a say. I don't see anything wrong with everyone saying, as soon as she is back with you then feel free to pierce her ears, until then, No; because it isn't necessary and it will cause the child pain, but I suppose that is the arguement to get them done ASAP too.
As for the baptism, again if she sets it up and the SW is fine with it then I don't see a problem. I'm sure a priest or deacon would possibly even come to a visit with her and do a private Baptism there. If she wants one on a Sunday, then as long as there was someone from the agency along with you both there I don't see it as a problem, but it would be up to her to set it up, do the trainings required, find godparents.... not you.
I would argue against the ear piercing since I don't see that as necessary and something that could cause pain/harm to the child, but I would be fine with the Baptism because to me that is culture/religion and something that won't hurt. I know, to some, ear piercing is culture/religion too, but since there is the whole pain and after-care aspects it feels different to me.
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