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Originally Posted by Lorraine123
I will probably get flamed for this, but I think sometimes foster parents are overly sensitive. I did straight adoption because I didn't think I could do foster. Because "I would get too attached". That doesn't mean I think you are heartless, it doesn't mean that I don't care about children, it doesn't mean that I deserve a sarcastic response. It means that I know my limitations. I know that I would have a very difficult time supporting reunification. I know my children and I know that one of them would have a difficult time seeing other children come and go. Does that mean I'm selfish and unable to place a child's needs above my own? I don't think so. We all have our own gifts. I have severely emotionally disturbed children. Not everyone could parent them. I've been told by others that there is no way they could do it. That doesn't mean that others are heartless. It means that we all excel in different ways. I thank God that that is the case because the world needs us all.
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I agree with this. We have gone through an excruciating process of deciding "no" to doing foster care, at least for now. We know our limitations and one of them is, for me, after all we've been through I don't want to have to say goodbye to a child I've attached to. It doesn't make anyone else heartless and it doesn't make me ignorant or deserving sarcasm when I'm just trying to express how I'm feeling honestly.
Right now I can't do what you do. I have limits to what I can handle. If that makes me a coward or whatever in the eyes of other people, I think that is better to admit than to get our family into a situation that we can't handle. Maybe someday we'll be able to see things differently. I honestly hope so because being a foster mom is something I'd really like to do someday. But right now it is no.