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I wonder if that has anything to do with ALL THE SECRETS? Many bmoms were told to never tell their future husbands and many never did. My bmom has been married for almost 37 years and as of 6 months ago, he did not know about me. I think that is part of the reason she stopped communicating with me. How in the heck do you tell a man about a baby you had 39 years ago and not be afraid that it will ruin everything? How would that not be devastating to him to be lied to for the entire marriage? How would that not cause trust issues? How would that not shatter a marriage built on lies? What is even worse for my bmom is that my siblings, her husband's kids have known about me for years.
When we first started emailing, she told me he didn't know but said he is so wonderful that he will go along with anything she wants. Well, I have to think that she started thinking harder about that and freaked out.
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