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It doesn't sound like AD to me either. I agree with above posters that at his age, there is little you can do to force change. I can understand how hard it is to push him out - but you will, at least, have to set guidelines (I would think). Give him the facts of what he has to accomplish to keep living with you. Get more hours of work or go to school more hours. Set him up with a career counselor - maybe that could help him see where computers could lead. Since he's not on your insurance anymore (I'm guessing he can't be at 25), he may qualify for psychiatric help in other programs, but he has to want to. You can set rules for his hygiene as well - how often he must shower, clean his sheets, his clothes. And, then, if he doesn't comply - I believe you'll have to bite the bullet and put him out on his own. I'm sorry you are in this situation...
I do want to add that I have an understanding. My uncle (now 50s) has NEVER left my grandmother's home/life. He lives in a rental unit that she owns right across the street and has no electricity/no running water. He self-medicates with alcohol and drugs, yet my grandmother has played into this by allowing him to continue to use what she has to get by. If it's hard now to let him sink or swim...it will only get harder. Do you want to be doing this at 84? I know my grandma wishes she wasn't...but she didn't act when she should have and now she worries herself (literally to death) about what will happen when she's gone.
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