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Hi there, and thanks to all.
We had a lawyer do the adoption, but firstmom picked us. We knew her well before she gave birth and she let us be there for the delivery. The adoption closed when she broke up with her fiance (not our daughter's birthfather). She had wanted N. to be the flower girl in her wedding, and we were great with that, but then she never called back. When we tried to reach her we got an unlisted number. N. is bi-racial. Her family was extremely prejudice, which is why she relinquished her--nobody in her family would help her, and she already had a son who was well loved in the family (this is going to really hurt my daughter, but that can be dealt with later). It took me a long time to find N's birthmother, but I'm pretty sure her hub knows about N. I do think Z. probably remembers. My older son remembers Z. clearly. In fact, I believe, for many reasons, that she has married Z's birthfather and he would then know for sure because he always saw Z. and saw him while firstmom was going through the entire adoption thing. They were always good friends even after they broke up. I think maybe it's just the shock and I'll wait and see what she does. She can get in touch with me now. If not, N. will pay her a visit, like it or not, when she turns eighteen. N. is a feisty girl...lol. And I'll be at her side if she needs me. I kind of hope she contacts me now though. I have tons of things to tell her, lots of pictures, and, most of all, I want her to know that "our" daughter is wonderful and that she is so loved and that her dad thinks she hung the moon and that, yes, we love her enough to die for her. And that she has her firstmom's eyes and bubbly personality and that she sleeps with her eyes open, just like firstmom. And that we love firstmom because she is a part of N. that we see and live with every day. Ah, well. Any other thoughts are welcome and you are all great people. Thank you so much!
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