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Our daughter's birthmother lived about 30 minutes from us when we met her and I was very worried about bumping into her at the mall or out to eat. In our case we ended up going from simi open to open and seeing her and her extended family several times a year. I am not trying to sway you from your decision but wanted to say that just because you feel open is not for you now doesn't mean your feelings won't change in the future. We were adiment about having a simi open with only letters and pictures a few times a year but our daughter's birthfamily handled things so well as far as giving us our space and standing back that we felt we were missing out on having them in our lives. Now that said, had they been pushy, overbearing or "strange" acting we might not have changed our dicisoin. You have to do what feels right in your heart.
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