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Originally Posted by Jtimes2
II wonder about the "turn and run" impulse. To be honest, it would be my first thought, but the more I've thought about it, if she can handle it and be civil I can too. I don't want to go into this though if she's not aware that we live in this town. How horrible would it be if she was surprised to see us while she was still healing and grieving?
But, like I said there is no guarantee she'll choose us and it's a pretty big town so I don't think we would see each other. As the agency put it though, she would know what we look like and the photo updates we send would allow her to know what the child looks like too, so it is possible that we'd recognize each other at Wal-Mart.
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The healing and grieving from an adoption lasts forever. I don't know single first mom that is healed completely. We get better, but there are always going to be things that can upset us. I can only speak for myself and say that I've gotten better at dealing with my grief, but it won't ever go away.
I am however a fully functioning member of society that wouldn't purposefully embarass anyone, least of all my son or his parents.
Don't think that posting this question was wrong. Even if you didn't like all the things you heard, I bet you still learned something and it got you thinking.
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First mom to the amazing Kiddo and adopted adult.
1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.
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