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I usually make a comparison to other losses I've experienced in my life. I say "We bring pets in to our lives, knowing that they are unlikely to outlive us - would you not adopt a dog because he is likely to only give you ten or twelve loving years and then leave you?" or "I wouldn't give up a minute with my grandmother just because she passed away." and "I don't discourage my children from having relationships just becaue they might suffer a loss when the relationship ends or changes."
When foster children are with me I love them with everything I've got, and when they leave, I grieve. Loss is a part of life - and I will not shy away from the joy just because I may also have to experience the other side.
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