[thanksgivingmom]

May I ask, what are the terms of the Semi OA you are considering?

I agree with Aclee that you need to be prepared for the possibility and be ready for it to happen, and so does the emom.

Cupcake's Mom and I live in seperate towns, about 20 minutes apart - but where we live all the towns are right on top of each other anyway. I know we go to some of the same shopping centers, etc., and while we have an open adoption, I don't think either of us is looking to "bump" into each other (for instance if I'm with family that don't know about the placement, with a friend that doesn't know, on a date, etc.) So if I'm going somewhere I know they've been (like EVER) I'm looking out a little - I will admit.

I know that I would be INCREDIBLY hurt if I saw Dee turn and walk away if we bumped into each other. I know that even if I were with people that didn't know about Dee, that I would feel that I MUST go at least say hello and acknowledge her presence (and Cupcake's!)

It's the risks and the complications that are inherent in some adoptions. And you have to weigh what you're comfortable with in every situation.

Best of luck to you!