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I come from a medium sized town...my graduating class was about 170 kids. I live 2+ hours from my home town now in a smaller town, surrounded by small towns. I've "run into" 5 people from my graduating class randomly in surrounding small towns. Applebees, Market Basket, Walmart, Shaws, and at a fair.

If you are ok with it, I think it's a great idea, but I wouldn't do it on the premise that you are okay with it because you don't think it will end up happening. You almost have to accept it know it would happen, and you could handle it.

I think I would also try to think about how it would be when the child was older. If she is receiving updates, but you are not, what will your child know about her, or what she looks like. If she comes up to you, and your child is old enough to understand how will you deal with that. I also really wonder if and adopted child who knows that their bmom lives in the same town would spend a lot of time looking for them, and asking if that was them. I know that adopted children in the closed era have said they spend time wondering what their birth parents looked like and looking for people that "looked" like them when they were out. Would that be made worse if your child knew that their bmom lived in the same town? Maybe an adoptee would weigh in.

I think you have to be comfortable with all of that before you say yes.