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What would you do? PBM lives in town.
We've been with our agency a short time (approved in November 08) and they do semi-open adoptions which we are comfortable with (for many reasons we didn't want a fully open adoption, and with all due apologies I don't want to start a debate on open vs. semi vs. closed).
We have been presented with a PBM that is a good match on paper. Only thing is, she lives in the same town that we live in. The agency says "you do not run in the same circles" and it's a pretty big town - I don't even run into friends or co-workers at the supermarket. But, I'm concerned for her. I can imagine it would be devastating to her if she saw us and the baby at a store or something. And I guess I'm a little concerned for us. I am sure the agency screened her and she wouldn't run up to the stroller or do anything but you never know when emotions are so raw. They won't present us to her unless we say o.k. and there is absolutely no guarantee that she would pick us anyway. Part of me feels this is so right. DH is totally on the fence and wants to discuss it tonight. What would you do?
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