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I am a birthmother and I sporadically post. I also try not to venture out into the other triad--although sometimes I am drawn by a topic.
It is still painful for me in reunion. My DD is busy with life and so I do not hear from her often. It has not been quite a year yet, but I hope that this does not mean that she has answers and is just moving on!!!
I think that poverty or the threat of it is a major reason for placement. I was not poor, but definitely lower middle class and I was told I would be on the street and on "welfare" and how would I ever do anything else with my life.
It is not easy being the birthmother because as soon as you relinguish you are not longer that "loving, generous" person. You are now someone to be feared. Someone who may try to "steal the baby back" and all the other stereotypes out there.
I come here because I have learned a lot on these forums. But I have also learned that in 23 years, the adoption process and the stereotypes have not changed a whole lot.
And Janey did you post or did anyone find it??
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