[MommyAlysia]

While it comes across offensive, I try to take those comments as a compliment instead of an insult. Most people mean well by those comments, even though the wording is insulting. Of course they will get attached, most everyone would, but what they really mean is they do not have the strength to let them go and *you* do, and thats ok to admit. You having strength doesn't make you heartless, quite the opposite actually, it means you love them enough to put their needs before your emotions. I don't think foster care is cut out for everyone, FP's put up with a lot they really have to be in it for the right reasons.

I usually try to educate rather than snap back, unless of course the person saying is trying to be insulting. I explain, "It won't be easy to let them go but someone has to do it and they need it to be someone who will love them unconditionally while they are there."