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Originally Posted by BethVA62
It feels to me like I am expected to celebrate a funeral. A part of my mother and myself died 47 years ago today.
It's something to be mourned, not celebrated.
So today I celebrate life in grief with a fake smile.
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Hey Beth, well said. I can totally relate. Mourn your loss. This is one of the few places where we can - before we have to go out and face the world with our pasted fake smiles of Glorified Gratitude for our mixed blessings.
Saying that adoptees should feel grateful for being alive and not aborted is about as sensitive as saying to a person who's lost their parent to death/suicide/war/some other tragedy/ to feel grateful they won't have to support the parent in their old age. Both comments hold some truth and have an upside but ignore the loss.