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I had the talk with her this weekend and told her that she needs to think about if we are the right match as personalities not based on if we have fun or not. She said she wants to be adopted but I told her she did have options like Independent Living. She didn't say anything after that. SHe does have ADHD and in her former adoptive home she was starved and locked in her room all night. SHe lies a lot although I know that the locked actually were true because the investigator took pictures. My husband is very annoyed by her behavior and when she calls us mom and dad there is no feeling behind it from her. We are not yet feeling the attachment either and don't want to hurt her by prolonging things but I also hoped we would try a little more. Based on the things her counselor has told us, like she does lie about dumb things and blames everyone else for her problems and constantly curses at the staff, should we give her 30 days to change or do you think its a little too late based on her age and having no change in her behavior in the last 7 years? Also what does anyone think about if we should mentor her instead?
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