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I was VERY scared. I knew that I wanted a girl someday. I thought that maybe I would start calling for a girl in another year and a half or two or maybe foster some babies just to see what happened but NEVER really expected to get a call for my son's sibling.
His bio mom just took off one day when he was six months old. I kind of imagined she could be pregnant again and trying to keep it from DYFS but I always blew that idea off.
Well here it was summer. I am a teacher and was preparing my classroom for September when I get home and hear a message on my machine. I can barely hear it as it is a bad connection. But sure enough, they told me his bio mom had another baby and it was a girl. Pretty much cut and dry adoption. I was SO scared.
My whole family thought I was nuts for adopting one baby on my own and I knew they would flip if they heard I was getting another. I was so scared to ask my family what they thought so I didn't. The state needed their answer. In fact they told me that they had called me the day before and since they could not reach me they promised the baby to another couple. Once I heard that I became upset. So I made a few phone calls and they called back and said she was mine. I pretty much just made a decision for a second child within 15 minutes!!!
They told me they had to drop her off the next day. Here I had no consulted anyone. Not a friend or family member. I swear I did feel a bit sick to my stomach. I ran out and bought a few pink outfits and sheets and then went home to make room for a crib.
It was hard with two little ones not walking. Going out was a big ordeal. Not getting sleep and having to handle two little ones was tough. At first I worried that my son would not get the attention he deserved but that was such a silly concern. Both of them got lots of attention from me and my family AND they get to grow up with a biological family member which I think is huge for them. I would do it again any day of the week. They are now three and four and VERY active. It is tiring but they are my miracles. It can be done.
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