[quote=AlisonMarie]I do think some of the ads are sometimes hurtful when I come here, like giving the gift of family, or pregnant? we can help. For me, adoption wasn't a "choice" I wanted to make. I wanted to keep my son, but at 15 I didn't have a lot of ground to stand on when someone asks, how do you expect to support your child? It wasn't a happy thing, and sometimes I do get offended when it's made to seem that way.
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I think it's a happy thing for the adoptive family, and I am happy my son will have a life I could have only dreamed of for him, but I wish I didn't feel it was the only way he could be happy.....I hope that makes sense.[/QUOTE
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I must say, like most of you, I have my days, but have yet to have ill feelings towards any parents whom have adopted. There is always gonna be those few, who just don't have a clue, about life in general and even know less of what it takes to be a "mom". Alison said something that has always peeked my curiousity...something along the line of her son having a life she could only dream of giving....This is what angers me the most..."We as Firstmoms, seem to have this notion! In reality, I do not know this, I was not given a chance to find out...after all I had a 6r. old(now29), and he is still an amazing person...I don't feel I did a bad job parenting him. I, however do not know behind those closed doors what my twin sons endured(now 22yrs.old). I do not, and have not ever known ANYTHING about where they went..but especially nothing about their parents! Did they endure abuse, alcohol, adultery/affairs(parents),financial loss, divorce, incest...etc., etc....the list goes on. People whom live in castles(9 bedrroms/6 baths), have the usual everyday issues I do. If we had to stop and parent for a week or 2 and be forced to look at these issues, would you have made the same choice? I had no choice( either sign or lose my 6 yr.old),but I think most ladies would reconsider relinquishing. I know there are no guarantees in life ,this can happen with all of us, but it is a guarantee, NOBODY could protect, love, and respect my twin sons more than me...their mother!
