I would go for both also

The worst that could happen is you went from a family of two one day to a family of four the next! Many people on here have done that, many adopt one and a few weeks later adopt another

I am sure with some love he will be walking, my friends son was behind with walking and he is from a stay at home mom...so no reason not to walk, he just started walking in Sept and he will be two in March! I can advise you to wear the newborn as this will allow you to have your hands free with the toddler. Peg Prego makes a great double light weight folds flat fits in trunk aria stroller

Perfect for kids of different ages and fits through the doors and isles. Britax makes a great toddler seat that he can stay in until 85 pounds so you won't have to buy so many seats! I will pray that both work out for you because in the end this toddler (is a toddler who NEEDS A HOME) and from what you have typed and all you could give him all the love an attention he needs. I will pray for you and your DH! Also praying for the pbmom who is thinking and deciding about placing, and for this little toddler who has no a clue what is happening and is moments away from meeting his forever family.
God Bless,
Summer
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