[MamaS]

Originally Posted by carlychan

I am all for sibs staying together. However, they can not keep moving kids around every time the parents have a new one. It would be entirely unfar for the oldest kids to keep moving every time they want to "keep the family together" and the current homes can't take more babies. I am totally open to sibling contact. I guess my point is...it is possible for the kids to stay in different homes. It is really unfair to all of them to be shifted around so much.

Carly, that is really well phrased. Putting the needs of the existing children ahead of a potential relationship with infant sibs/half-sibs who they don't even know seems the best, most reasonable solution.
OP, I understand your confusion and I am sorry you got criticized. I CAN see a difference between the othe FP saying "We will take an infant we don't even know so that we can keep the girl we love" and you saying "I want to keep the infant I love and I am okay with you keeping the little girl you love." They are both young and they have no previous relationship. Perhaps if CPS didn't turn it into a "bidding war" you and the other FP could have established an open relationship and kept the children in touch with each other. I wish you well.