[sgtfirstwife]

We received our foster son at birth. It was not until two weeks later that we learned that he had an older sibling. The older siblings foster family, who had him for over a year, did not want the baby. When we were told about the sibling, we were asked if we could take the older child. We told them that we would consider it. It was a very difficult decision, we had really only wanted one more child, but we kind of left it with fate. Then nine months later the other foster family decided they were tired of waiting for TPR, so they wanted to have him moved. We were asked. After much prayer we decided to take him in. I will be really honest I was not thrilled. I had taken in mostly infants and he was a toddler, but I felt in my heart it was the right thing to do. We were told at the time that it would also make the case more likely go to TPR faster (yeah right) and in all honesty this was part of our decision.
We had several issues at first, speech, eating, separation anxiety and whining. It was a really bumpy start. I had a very time difficult time bonding, but it is going better now.
My advice is if you do accept these children, realize that there will be issues. I can imagine how the other family feels having been on both sides of the fence.
On a side note, before I am flamed, I love my new little one as much as I love my other children. So in the end we made the right decision. Now if we can only get that darn TPR!!!