[lindadohm]

I an new this website. However; when looking it over, I do see that much of the postings/information is for or about the adoptive parent rather than the birth parents. I have absolutely nothing against couples (or singles) wanting to find a child to adopt, to raise as their own, to love and cherish, but here is the problem. I am a birthmom and while I appreciate that my relinquished son's adoptive family took him in and gave him the type of life that I could have never given him when I was sixteen, for some reason, adoptive parents still seem like the enemy. I know that sounds horrible on my part, but there is anger, bitterness, sorry, regret and a whole range of other emotions surrounding "the adoption", simply because I had no real choice and in my mind, my son was taken from me. I'm not sure if I'm explaining this so that everyone understands and I harbor no real ill will against my son's adoptive parents, I just wish with all my heart and soul that it had been me raising him and sharing his life. So when I read things like "loving couple looking for infant to raise and love as their own", something inside of me just explodes.

To all adoptive parents who might read this, I'm sorry. I know most of you are wonderful individuals and have made wonderful parents, I just hurt, even after 36 years.