[bromanchik]

I think, in some ways, you have to have a strong stomach to be here as a birth/firstmom. While most adoptive parents are very loving and supportive, there are some who can be unintentionally hurtful to someone who is really vulnerable.
For example, I posted this under a "sensitive topics" post on another forum. These are my feelings only.
Sensitive topics for me as a birthmom? ......

-Gushy announcements. I cringe every time I see some one write... "she can sign at 48 (or 72, or 24 hours)" While I totally get their perspective, all I can think of is the pain, and the pressure, that this new mom is going through.

-Cutting off visits or cutting down contact. Again, while I get that adoptive parents make these decisions, I see/feel it from the birth/firstmom's perspective.

-Anytime someone says "It takes more to be a mother than giving birth."

-Anytime someone uses a diminishing term like "birth lady or "bio's" or "the lady whose tummy you came from" (as if she is and egg shell.)

I got more, but you get my drift. Seeing this stuff can be hurtful if you don't have some kind of inner belief and strength in your place as a birth/firstmom. E