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Old 01-04-2009, 10:03 PM
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How old is she? Is her attachment good or are there problems?

We went through this around 3 and a half with DD. She was very well attached and just decided that she no longer liked bed time. I am not one for letting a child cry it out for hours at a time. She was old enough for me to be strict and put a plan in place.

I would stay and lie in bed with her as long as she was quiet and closed her eyes. I would rub her head or her back if she wanted and I would snuggle with her. Then, after maybe 5 minutes lying like that I would kiss her good night and tell her I would see her in the morning. She would beg for one more minute and I would agree on the condition that there was no fussing. She always feels like she gets a "yes" then and I give her another 2 minutes or so and then go out.

At first I would have to get up to leave because she would talk. Once she saw I was serious and she had to be still for me to stay she would do what she had to. It took about a month but it worked for me. I still do this at bedtime and she's 4 and a half now.

Good luck!
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