[OneMoreTime]

My brother-in-law has called us and asked us to adopt his son's child because his son is in jail and the birthmother has lost custody of her other two children. He feels TPR is imminent. He thought of us because we have 5 other adopted children. He wants to be called Grandpa. All of our children call him Uncle Kevin. We are trying to explain to him that if we adopt the baby, in our family structure he would be Uncle. And when the baby was old enough to understand family dynamics and begins to question, we would explain the relationships and if the child wanted to start calling him Grandpa then, it would be the child's choice. My brother-in-law is absolutely against being called Uncle. He has also told us that he would not be able to treat him as an equal to our other children. He says he would treat him different because he is his grandchild. Basically, he wants his grandchild, but doesn't want the responsibility that's why he is not adopting him. We are in a quandary as to what to do and how to handle this. We want to help out and have been praying to adopt again, but we also want to protect our children. Any thought???