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I have to second that on the attachment issue. I adopted two kids with mobility issues. I think it helped me with both to have to carry them so much. My son does have RAD, but I think his pysical issues really helped him by forcing him to have to accept me carrying him and stuff. The physical stuff is not nearly the big deal the emotional stuff has been. Mine are both amputees (birth defects) so I can't address the CP stuff, but I do have one who uses a wheelchair full time and another who uses prosthetic legs most of the time, but sometimes either has or still does use walkers, crutches and wheelchairs. Another good idea is to find a support group of parents with kids with similar issues, they trade lots of advice and in the case of amputees clothes that have been adapted and sometimes wheelchairs. For my daughter we went to a wheelchair fairly early because she had chaffed under being left out in the orphanage even though she was just a baby. She is just naturally indipendant. She also hates being talked down to. In a stroller people treated her more like a baby than in a wheelchair, also you can take a wheelchair places where you can't take a stroller. She was three when she got her first chair. Now sometimes she still gets talked down to and it drives her nuts. She also hates the stares she gets when she is in a chair. My son on the other hand kind of likes being babies and loves the attention he gets in his wheelchair. (he loves attention of any kind)
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