Please..... be careful!!
I cannot express this enough. We have been residents here in PA for 6 years, have been on our adoption journey for 2 1/2 yrs and after being victims of 2 scams, than the loss of a son by stillborn, than about 5 bmoms changing their minds we thought our dreams of becoming a family were finally coming true. Our son was born Nov 5th in Virginia, his bmom had contacted us back in May about placing, which she found us purely by accident... or the work of God. The bdad was not onboard at the time, he did not even take the time to meet us when we went down to Va for a week in July.... than he Sept he decided he would sign and realized adoption was in the best interest of this baby. He asked the bmom for our numbers so he could establish a relationship with us and so we thought all was fine.....
PA law requires signing of consents 72 hrs after birth.... bmom signed........ bdad did not and in fact he wrote a note he was revoking his consent.... well all the attorneys involved said "no problem because he will have to come to PA to fight it should he choose to continue making trouble" so all the papers were sent to ICPC in Va who approved our leaving with our son on Nov 18th, I knew ICPC in PA had not approved us bringing our son across state lines so I stopped at my nieces' house in New Jersey to stay until clearance came ........ ICPC in PA rejected the baby coming home....... no signed consent and there was a note that bdad was against the adoption and is giving baby to his parents.
Needless to say everyone was shocked. At the advice of my attorney I contacted my state rep, he got nowhere with ICPC so here we are 2 weeks later and the baby cannot come home.... bdad is taking us to court on Feb 12th in Virginia for custody. He has never once contacted anyone to ask how his son is, where he is or anything at all.......... neither has his parents. His own Mom has stated that "no Judge in his right mind would give her son custody so that is why she is doing this"
Where is this in the best interest of this child?? What is fair to this baby???
Please........ do not attempt to do an adoption WITHOUT signed consents, we are now at a great risk of losing our son who we fell more in love with the second he came out and I saw him. Our attorneys never expected ICPC to reject this and nobody in that office can tell me they have never received an adoption packet that did not have a signed bdad consent....... this cannot and is not the first time this has happened!!
If anyone knows anything this precious baby who is in limbo and cannot come home needs your help......
Feel free to email me at
Poogiebr@ptd.net
Thanks and good luck to all
Jennifer
The dream continues