[lucyjoy]

Sounds like sulky teen attitude. However, it also doesn't sound much like she wants to be adopted.

FYI-not sure what actual info you have but a disrupted adoption is often blamed on abuse by the former aparents when they are falsely accused by unattached kids. This girl may well have been abused but with the attitude and the fmom's comments, I would wonder.

Has she acutally said she wants to be adopted? She may not at her age.

If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.