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Originally Posted by BethanyB
I live in NJ and know many families who were placed with AA infants very quickly. Although I am CC, I adopted two AA children through the fost/adopt program here.
When I called the agency that does training for the state (Just Babies) and told them I was open to race and gender they told me I would probably have a baby within a day or two of being certified.
Well four days after being certified, I got the call for my newborn AA son. They told me he had about a 99 percent chance of being adoptable since his bio mom did not have custody of any of her children. She did not want her family to know about her kids because she was embarrassed. Her sister was being given a homestudy for a daughter she already had in state custody, but the sister failed the homestudy due to the same type of things the bio mom herself was doing wrong.
I was told my son was exposed to drugs in the womb but he was born drug free. He was healthy and had normal weight and APGAR scores. Six months later she left town and TPR was granted. He was about a year and a half when I adopted him.
A year after he was born I got the call for my daughter. My son's bio mom gave birth to another baby who was taken at birth. She skipped out of the hospital and TPR was filed several months later as she never came back to try and gain custody in any way. I adopted her at about a year and a half too.
So for me, everything went well. The paperwork end of it takes a while but you learn how to deal with that. I guess every state is different. But there are certainly risks.
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I, too, am in New Jersey. So, even within the same state, things can go very differently. Bottom line, you just never know until you try and you have to be willing to take the risk. Guess it's no different than private adoption and giving birth, huh?