i am in marion cty and am currently going thru the same thing. reunification is the current goal, and mom is a registered sex offender. a violent one at that. the man my foster kid was left with may or may not be bio mom's "employer."
this kid obviously shows signs of sexual abuse and has told me several times that mommy and pop pop "touched his winky."
i am frustrated beyond believe and what i feel is a lack of a response in all this. i realize since he's so young, he may be confused over who did it, but i have a real problem at the idea that this person after committing a sex crime against a minor even remotely has a chance to get her kid back.
it seems to me there not only needs to be more scrutiny on the county and the state for allowing this to continue, but more advocacy needs to be done to get some of these laws changed. my roommate and i have seriously discussed forming a non-profit that works to change the laws instead of subjecting our kids to them.
i don't want to give up hope for him, but sometimes when you see the looks on people's faces when you try to tell them you have this uphill battle to climb, its almost like they look at you and think, what's the point, nothing is going to change.
and i guess if everyone had that attitude nothing ever will. my heart is actually sick thinking that he is going to have to go back to this nightmare of a life. it makes it worse knowing that according to the child advocate, for the first time since she has known him, he actually seems happy here.
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