[EZ2Luv]

First Welcome to Adoption.com. Here you will find a wealth of knowledge and support from all sides of the triad. Congrats on entering this rollercoaster called Reuinion.
I am an adoptee and would like to tell you that it is NOT your job to make everyone happy. Of course we want to reassure our moms that we love them and just because we have reunited with biomom does not take any love from amom. Just let your amom know that you have enough love in your heart for both and she will always be the Mommy that raised you and you ran to whenever you needed Mommy.

As for your Bmom, you might find that it is a different kind of mother/daughter love because right now you are basically strangers who share DNA. It is not your job to sort bmom's issues out. Don't forget that to bmom you are still a tiny baby. She probably feels there is alot of making up for lost time. It is VERY important to set up some boundries early on with her so that you are not overwehlmed. I am certainly not an expert on reunion and I am sure there are others here that can offer you experienced advice. I am just going by what I have learned along the way in attempting a relationship with biosiblings.
Also, try and remeber that even though you are not responsible for amom's feelings try and put yourself in her shoes for a minute. I honestly believe that if you reassure her that you are not looking to replace her (not that it would ever be possible) just that you want to know you bmom.
When I was forced to search I did worry that my aparents would feel as though they were going to be replaced or that they would feel as though they in some way failed me or fell short and that was why I searched. The truth is I was in need of medical information. Anyhow it is important for you to be happy first. Keeping an open dialogue with amom and letting her know you love her and she is irreplaceable should be sufficient. Beyond that you need to follow your heart and do what is right for you.

EZ