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I think the biggest thing that I wasn't prepared for the time it is taking to bond/attach to my son. I think with babies or maybe even young toddlers, the bonding comes more naturally because they need you for the basics (ie, eating). With an older child, it is more complicated. Plus, if the child is lying, stealing, etc., it is hard to feel close to them. Having a bio child (which you do too), makes it hard because I KNOW how I SHOULD feel as a mom about my child.....but I don't. It is a weird situation to be in & takes a lot of adjusting. I'm trying to grow closer to my son by spending time & doing fun things...but it takes a lot of time/work. I think coming into this, I thought I'd "fall in love" with the child placed in my home immediately. I just thought it would feel so right when a match was found. Well, that isn't how it played out for me. That has been my biggest struggle thus far.
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