[graciej]

Thanks for the advice and suggestions. I think I will ask the caseworker if we could possibly delay the visitation (if biomom even requests it) for a few weeks. I'm a teacher, so I'm usually at work in the daytime and a case aide normally picks up my foster children for visits. But if the visits didn't start until June, I could take her myself, which might help if I could sit in on the visits. I've never really had opportunity to sit and talk to this mom for longer than a minute or two (usually at court or before a supervised visit) since she's been incarcerated most of the time I've had the children, but she has written to me three or four times and I've written back to her. I hope she knows how much we love her children and that we are caring for them well, but I don't think she would ever agree to a voluntary surrender. The agency asked her before they moved to involuntarily terminate on the oldest child and she refused. She was incarcerated at the time of the baby's birth, so she hasn't seen her since she was born and the baby will be 13 months old when the biomom is released.

Her visits with the oldest were sporadic when she wasn't incarcerated, so I guess I will have to wait and see what happens.

Thanks for sharing your experience. It helps.