[shecandoit]

I'm new to posting in this community but have been reading for awhile. My husband and I have been going through the process to be approved to adopt and will be completed soon. We do have one child (daughter) who just turned 18 and will be headed off to college this fall. We don't feel done with parenting so decided to look into adopting an older child, a son.

However, after going through the classes and reading so much I am wondering if we have lost our sanity. I read so many posts about all the hardships of adopting older children. Quite frankly, it is hard to find information on the successful stories and happy families. So that leads to the question: Why do you do it? If you knew then, what you know now, would you have adopted? What would you have done differently?

As you look for the 'right' match, how do you read the materials to help identify what you think you are ready to handle vs. what is too much (or do you ever know)?

We had identified that we were interested in adopting a boy, maybe two, between the ages of 6 - 14; leaning towards the 10 - 12 age range, but I wondered if we are just biting off more than we want.

Any thoughts? Words of advice as we continue this process? Thanks