[lucyjoy]

You said the relative was willing to take your son for a while to give you a break. It is tough to make decisions regarding disruption while in the middle of a war. Let the relative take him short term and give you a chance to think clearly.

This does sound very much like attachment and you will need an attachment therapist if you choose to continue.

I don't think it's horrible to decide not to let one child destroy your family. I kept a kid who did a lot of damage to my other kids by being here and ultimately, it didn't help him either.

Good luck with your decision.